Category Archives: Ponderings

Update

©mistymountainreverie.com 2016
©mistymountainreverie.com 2016

 

Just a quick update, if anyone is still out there.

The past 9 months have been full of challenges. The best part, is coming through with more knowledge and strength! Unfortunately, during this time, my hobbies had to take a backseat.

Currently, I am working 2 jobs, as well as dealing with a plethora of family issues. I still have little free time, but the call to write again has arrived. I hope to post some new work in the next couple of weeks.

Let me know your still out there by leaving me a comment below!

Misty

How do you make new friends after 40?

Charleston, WV sunset
Charleston, WV sunset by MistyMountainReverie ©2015

 

As a 40-something single mom, I find it’s difficult to meet new people. Even more challenging, is to turn the people I meet into friends. Men seem to have an ulterior motive. Women seem overwhelmed with life’s burdens.

In my particular geographic area, I find it is challenging to find people with a positive outlook on life and who are addiction-free. Or they have controlling partners. Or insecure with having a single friend around their husbands (I don’t want to steal your man, I promise) Or, they are the cheaters. Or they are addicted to drama and gossip or social media rumors…..truly the list could go on and on.

The internet does enable me to find many like-minded souls, yet many are far away. It would be nice to have someone I could meet for coffee. Someone to walk along the river and chat with. Someone to share the joys and challenges of life.

Who’d have thought that as hard as it is to find someone to date, it is even harder to make a new friend IRL.

If you have any suggestions, I would love to hear from you! Leave me a comment and let me know 🙂

Misty

 

 

Getting Lost and Directions

Cosmic soap bubbles (God takes a bath) (612350664)
By woodleywonderworks (cosmic soap bubbles (God takes a bath)) [CC BY 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Getting Lost and Directions

When  I started this blog, I had all sorts of ideas. Poetry was not one of them 🙂

Yet, here I am. What happened at first was exciting and overwhelming. I did not anticipate my jumbled, often contradictory feelings, thrown into fragments, could even be considered poetry or prose. I most definitely did not expect to reach people, touch people,  help people. I simply was not prepared. I felt too vulnerable, and insecure.

I began to hold back my feelings. I was insecure about my negative/dark thoughts and writing.  I felt responsible, self-conscious and placed unnecessary expectations on myself.

I read information about marketing, tried to master the ever-changing SEO dance, joined the ‘look-at-me’ brigade…it sucked. It ruined the whole process, my entire mission.

I decided to take a step back. I took a break and focused on starting a dream of mine, a home  delivery cooking business. I also began to focus more on QEDomains, another business I would like to see get off the ground.

Then Life decided to throw a fit, akin to a 2 year old’s temper-tantrum. Health issues, family drama and financial issues ensued. I was in the middle of home-schooling, trying to find work and ran out of money for anything on the extra list.

Then I was missed?! I was blown away by the feedback. It just took awhile to sink in. I was not feeling very worthy, was experiencing too much loss and grief to feel like I could help or contribute to anyone. Most of the feedback I’ve experienced has been on Twitter. It is a wild place. One, where surprisingly, which I have found compassion, empathy and connection. Touching people with my words has been humbling.

Thankfully, as all things seem to do, the storm calmed. Positive forward motion was now possible. My Muse began to sing again.

Knowing I can help is what has encouraged me to continue to post my poems and basically my journal. Hearing from you is what will enable my site to flourish. Connecting with other like-minded souls is the best part

Moving forward, what I hope to accomplish is putting my thoughts, poems, photos, recipes, drawings, paintings and other creations out there with no regard to appeal or popularity. If the world likes it, fantastic! If not, well that’s fantastic too. Self-reliance is my goal. Basing our worth on others needs, wants, judgments or expectations/rules is a recipe for disaster. No one ever benefits.

And on this journey, when I falter, or need a pep talk, or have to vent and rant, my pen will once again hit the paper. I’ll write freely like I used to. I’ll let my jumbled emotions flow. I’ll let go of worrying about what people think. I’m letting go of ridicule, systems, formulas and agendas.  I look forward to what has yet to unfold.

If you made it this far, wow, YOU ROCK! I thank you for you time and attention. It means a lot to me

This and That

Just a quick post, update I suppose….

When I started posting poetry, most of the poems were from a collection of jottings and journaling. Memories of years gone by. I did begin writing some new material, yet I felt there was more I wanted to explore.

The last few months, mingled in with holidays, SNOW, a bunch of other funky stuff, MORE SNOW, you get my drift ( lol couldn’t help it 😉 ) I’ve been writing, noticing, listening, pondering.

Playing with perspectives is a big part of it. Choices based on  Or not depending on the choiceof Societies RULES. Following the pack, being like EVERYONE ELSE or not. It’s simple and extremely difficult at the same time.

My Cousin said something to me that was one of those perspective changing moments. I can’t even remember exactly how he said it. Basically, past hurts prevent future experiences.

We write our own story every day.  It can be what ever we choose.

How often do we remember that, throughout  our hectic day?

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Currently I’m working on posting  some random writing, poems, affirmations  and recipes. Mostly I’m working on my story  and enjoying the arrival of spring.

Also,  cooking is a hobby of mine, an edible science project! I would love your feedback. (I just need to start taking more pictures) Always seems better as a collaborative effort.

 

 

 

Do You Use Affirmations ?

Do you ever use affirmations?

Looking around Twitter, believe it or not, I find so many beautiful things to use each and every day.

I’m going to compile a list of people to follow, post in with the next affirmation and hopefully each one of you can find someone to help motivate and encourage you. You can never have too many cheerleaders!

This is one I made up years ago, when I was starting a business. For the entrepreneurs out there, you know how hard and grueling the first year can be.

This is my way of seeing the beauty in each and every day!

By Divine Right
May all that is allotted to me
Present itself
May I embrace love
May I not judge
May I accept the abundant gifts
the universe has to give
Now and always

Try it! Or any affirmation that suits you and feels wonderful

Peace~
Misty

Diving Boards and Boarding Passes

This is going to be quick. I’m sorry I’ve not posted sooner. It’s been a chaotic few days….

My friend, Nicholas had an amazing post and I want to share it with you today.

nicholasdagostino.com/two-sides-one-coin

Please go and read this post, and then read as many as you can!

He inspired me to finally publish this blog, as I was fearful. Baring your soul to the world is a bit intimidating!

Each and every day, he spends his time uplifting others. His message, his attitude, his candor are all AMAZING!

So, what does that have to do with diving boards?

Our OUTLOOK

Are you the type to stick a toe in and wade down, or do you just jump right in?

Can you dive off the high dive? or only the side of the pool?

Do you check the depths of the water or go full-boar, head first?

These are questions that relate to life as well. It’s that balance we all try to achieve on a daily basis.

And what I’ve learned is getting a toe wet first accomplishes nothing for me! Diving in right away, I always find myself injured lol, because usually the “water” wasn’t deep enough, and of course I forgot to check!

That is my biggest challenge on a daily basis! Blogs like nicholasdagostino.com  help me stay motivated and at the same time promote focus and balance.

I highly recommend you listen to his poem, titled “Gravity”, read his blog and begin your journey.

His book is titled “I’M READY FOR TAKEOFF” and he has begun a great new email campaign, so go now and get your BOARDING PACT and begin your new life! You will be so glad you did!

NM

Part one|The Moment

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That “Living in the Now” thing, yeah, that’s the one …

If you’re a fix-it junkie, then you’ve probably tried to fix yourself at one point. Hopefully you have succeeded! But, if you’re like me, it’s still a work in progress
Which brings me to the present

My flow got discombobulated two weeks ago,  all by myself.
I watched a cumulative effect of work,  planning, and dedication slip away SO FAST and by my own choices.
Kind of like busting your butt on the ice *BOOM* FLOW DISRUPTION
Oh and how the effect trickles.
Now you could blame the ice or the fall, but in reality you could have used caution. Unawareness breeds “accidents ” & just because we didn’t do it on purpose we still have choices.

And the one thing I got from all of this:
You miss the moment when you focus on the moment.
Makes sense? No? I hear ya –
Let me break it down. If I focus on being “in the moment” living in the present, that mere focus becomes an obstacle.
Think Chinese handcuffs. And if you’re a fixer, a perfectionist, a planner, this moment stuff feels too irresponsible. We can’t be living in the moment all of the time – or can we?

NM

SEO coffee and a Saturday morning

I was going to post something funny today, but the Universe knows better apparently

I can’t get this out of my head

A lot of people I’ve seen this week are out there like me realizing, finally, there is a way to survive in this world on our creativity. Another group is great at marketing, social networking and sees this as a fun way to help others and make money.

Now, not everyone is this way. Those who are can surely stand out, and do.

The big AH HA is this

Misty M Reverie retweeted

SEO news is out! Stories via

 Here’s  the thing
I’m reading advice on a comment for a plug in, I’m reading the advice from
people like Mr. Brondoni and the plethora of other wise, experienced marketers and experts.
AND I DIDNT DO ANY OF IT
I forgot tags, I signed up to have tweets and posts auto-generated (and forgot to use them)
I missed prime “tweet” times, even with notifications
and just winged it
Now don’t get me wrong, I still worked hard
Just Differently
I was REAL, I posted what FELT needed to be posted
I yanked Titles out of the air, because I’ve never been good at labels ( no tags lol)
I opened notebooks, boxes, digital files and took what was originally
MY PERSONAL WONDERLAND
And was convinced to bare my soul to the world {thanks Nicolas :-}
This blog wasn’t meant to be the focus. I wasn’t even going to promote it
I didn’t want to let anyone see this stuff, let alone the world!
And when I went on Twitter, I looked for people who interested me. I clicked on their websites,
I learned what they were about. I followed people who would positively influence me, inspire
me, teach me and encourage my path,
and then BOOM! A flood of super cool, interesting and creative people showed up! It’s fantastic!
Over 150 new followers in 10 days because of
THE REAL WAY 
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m learning how to play the SEO / Marketing / Social Media game
I have to, as do we all. But what is great about it is it gives all of us INTROVERTS a means
and a way to accomplish this. We don’t sell, as much as our ENERGY is what draws others in.
And out in the public, that can be draining. On the Internet, there is a boundary
and it IS POSSIBLE
to convey authenticity, even with that boundary.
The KEY is helping each other out, because we know we all have room for inspiration, and
this is a HUGE ocean of possibility. Yes, it helps to know the scientific side and incorporate it
into our mission , and at the same time, still being the person who signed up with
NO FOLLOWERS, NO LIKES, NO 1+’S, NO FAVORITES
Find your own followers, learn about them, help their cause and be gracious and thankful
 There  is only so much time in a day, I know. It’s getting harder for me to keep up as the
recognition blossoms. In spite of it all, I still feel the way to go is the opposite way
Sure, Keywords, Tags, SEO optimization are all great things. We need to market
and advertise if we want to eat and pay the utilities, etc.
It’s the realism that will keep it all alive in the end. Don’t lose sight of why it all started
and what you are going to contribute back to the Universe.
If you do, your house of cards may rattle or fall.
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If I forget to thank you or I thank you twice
If I forget proper grammar and mess up a link,
accidentally use a picture I THOUGHT WAS OK FOR FREE USAGE,
If i link you and I shouldn’t have, I’m still learning and will fix it if you let me know.
Constructive Criticism welcome here
Because I am a human being. I’m giving the world my heart, right on my sleeve
And I made Friends 😀

Our Dreams

We  hope/pray/trust ___ to…

Doctors ~ to take care of us

Educators ~ to SAFELY teach us

Partners/Lovers ~ to be trustworthy, loyal and kind

Kids ~ to learn, love and grow

Friends ~ Well….you know

Family ~ Oh, wow…that’s a novel

Neighbors ~ helping, not hindering life

Community and World Leaders ~ to enact proper leadership and laws

Employers ~ a healthy safe place to grow and prosper

And does it ever really happen?

If, so HELP

Tell me how…

NM 09-01-14